The GLAM Blog Club theme for April 2018 is control and I want to challenge you to take control of your life and your career. Every single one of us has the ability to change and shape our own lives into how we want to be and that starts by taking control of the small things around us and inside of us. Yes, there are external challenges that influence our options and our choices but ultimately it is your decision on how you experience and react to your own circumstances. When you make a decision you accept and own the consequences of that decision whether it is positive or negative. Sometimes the consequences suck, but you have made the decision and so you accept the outcome.
Take control of your present
What are you doing right now? Do you want to be doing it? If you don’t want to be doing it, stop doing it. If you are reading this blog post and you hate it, stop reading it! If you’re doing your laundry and you don’t want to be doing it right now, stop doing it. The consequence is that you may have to wear your emergency undies to work tomorrow but that is the choice that you make and you accept the consequences. If you go to your friends party rather than finishing and submitting your assignment on time then you accept the consequences of a reduced mark. Does a lower mark suck? Yes. But it was your choice and you must own the consequences. Simple. Alternatively, you spend all afternoon consoling an upset colleague instead of finishing your report. You know that your boss won’t be happy but you choose to be a good human in the present and deal with that difficult work conversation tomorrow.
Take control of your future
If there is something that you want to do, a goal or a dream, then you need to take control and come up with a plan to make it happen! If you want to progress at work then apply for that secondment or project role. If you don’t apply then you can’t complain about there being no opportunities. Go and learn that skill that no-one in your workplace has and make yourself indispensable! If you have dreams of one day taking a working holiday in Europe then come up with a plan – start saving $10 a week, mapping out your itinerary, making connections overseas – what little thing can you do this month towards that goal? Take control and do something!
Take control of your environment
Do you find your workspace uncomfortable and uninspiring? Take control of your environment and make some positive changes! Clean up your desk, get rid of stuff you don’t need, turn your desk around, add some decorations, add some toys, get a footrest, get a new office chair, hang a painting, display positive quotes, make everything pink…. do something! Make your workspace work for you and not against you.
Take control of your thoughts
The is a tough one but with practice you can start to take control and influence the kind of thoughts that you have. When you have a negative thought you can choose to stop, rethink, and change your thinking and the more that you do this the more that your thoughts will shift. It does take a while but I have done, and continue to do this and it works. I wanted to be happier, I wanted to see things positively, I wanted to get excited by things, I wanted to see the joy in things and I’m pretty good at it now, just ask the people who know and work with me!
Take control of your voice
You have control over the things that come out of your mouth and your fingers (typing) so make sure you are expressing yourself in the way you want to be expressing yourself. You can choose to be happy, supportive, positive, helpful, friendly, compassionate, nurturing, caring, empathetic or you can choose to be negative, bitchy, whiny, sad, annoying, insulting, unhelpful and mean. Your choice. This is something I am always working on and I think I always will be. I have been known to speak without thinking first or send an angry email and later regret it so I am always trying to be aware, take control and craft my voice.
Take control of your relationships
Stop having lunch with the negative people in your workplace! Stop agreeing to go on a coffee run with that person who spends the whole time bitching and whining about their colleagues. Take back the control of your relationships by choosing who to spend time with and what you are going to talk about. Choose to spend time with positive, happy, motivated people and you will turn into a positive, happy, motivated person! I’m sure you’ve heard this before, I hear it all the time, but we are the product of the five people we spend the most time with. Who are you spending your time with? This also applies to social media – you control who you friend, like, follow and what appears in your feed. I give you permission to unfriend, unlike, unfollow whoever you want – even me – I do it all the time and you don’t need to feel bad about it!
Everything in this blog post can be summed up by encouraging you to take control by taking small steps. Trust me, I know life isn’t all perfect and easy, that’s definitely not my experience, and I don’t want you to all to turn into well behaved robot people either but I do want you to think about some of the small changes you can make that can potentially bring big changes into your work and personal lives. We’re all works in progress and we’re all trying to be the best versions of ourselves that we can be, small steps at a time.